Boyfriend Went To A Strip Club Last Night?

Okay, so my boyfriend of 1 year (long distance) went to a strip club last night for his 18th bday w some friends. When he first told me about it a while ago i said that he could go because i didnt want to sound controlling, but he did ask me if i was okay with it or not. So, i kinda just let it slip out of my mind and not think about it too much. And then his bday came. last night he went and he sent me a pic of him with like 5 almost naked girls and then said he got a lap dance by all of them. (even though he said he wouldnt let them do that) At first i said that that was awsome but then it hit me. Me and him are very serious about our relationship, but then im really really against this type of stuff. All today, it was eating me alive and was all i could think about. Anyways so, after that i asked him if he was planning on going alot to the strip club, and he said no it was too expensive but hes going friday becasue he got "special coupons" bcuz of his bday. Then all of a suddon i told him that it does bother me and i feel like its infidelity. Touching the strippers, letting them touch you, knowing all the dirty thoughts going through his head, it hurts me so bad. Even though he did tell me after, "You have an amazing body, only the best :)))))%26lt;33333" But its still killing me, bccuz i feel like people that go to strip clubs are sleezy pigs who SHOULD be single. I feel like its wrong to go if you have a girlfriend. He did say, "Its harmless, This is how ive always seen strip clubs: like reading a live porno mag or watching live solo porn, means nothing to me at all." So idk, its like, i feel so worthless and i would be okay with it if he just watched instead of getting lap dances... and it didnt help when he sent me the efffing pick of him and the girls and telling me that he got the dances -_- Ugh i feel like i shouldnt be upset becuz i did tell him he could go, i just didnt realize it would hurt this much :( So as of now, the last time we talked was last night, he hasnt txted or called today. Idk if i should have the right to be upset and not talk to him yet or tell him that im sorry i got upset, and that i didnt realize that it would hurt this much and want to fix the problem? What do you think?Boyfriend Went To A Strip Club Last Night?
Tell him what you are feeling. He'll only respect and love you more the more you open up to him.

Strip Clubs are supposed to be fun, but a person who frequents them will eventually realize that it's a great waste of money, that it's all a show, and the girls only care about the money. He'll realize that if he has a girl at home, then home is the greatest show he'll ever experience. He just turned 18, this might seem new and exciting, but it won't take long for him to see what a scam it is. He sent you pictures, which is a sign that he is open and honest with you. This is a good thing.
it is your fault for not telling him in the first place that it would bother you.

i don't think it's something to even question, hell yeah it's gonna bother you.



as for your boyfriend, i'll give him that atleast he's being honest...

but.

if he has a girlfriend, he has no business being at a strip club.



don't be afraid to tell him what you want, just because you're afraid he'll leave you.

if you let it slide, it's gonna keep building, and it's going to be an unhealthy relationship.Boyfriend Went To A Strip Club Last Night?
Ok, I think that he is lying to you! I know you dont want to think about it....but why would he get the lap dance? Or go back again? I think he is a jerk. You dont need him gurl ! :) And when he sent you thu picture that was just so stupid
First just calm down. The best thing to do is tell him. Don't keep secrets between you and him. Let him know how you feel but don't start yelling or become to bossy! If you do things may go bad. Hope this helps!!!
Well, Since you told him you were ok with it, you really cant be mad that he went..u cant really expect much more from a strip club then a bunch of sleezy skeezers dancing on your man. HOWEVER, you can LET that part go and tell him that you letting him go was just a 1 time thing for his 18th birthday. You dont feel comftorble with him there all together and it would mean alot if he didnt go..even if he has coupons. ((Btw i dont think strip clubs give coupons for lap dances..just drinks in which that case he could jus get the special at a regular bar))



If you ask him to not go and tell him u dont feel comftorble and he goes anyways then maybe being with him is something you should reconsider especially after 1 yr he doesnt respect you enough to go behind your back.
When I went to a strip club one new years, girlfriend were actually there with their boyfriends! It's all fun, only people who constantly go there for entertainment are weirdos.



Plus, I enjoy the fact that most strippers have shapely figures, if anything a chick would get more self-esteem from watching a stripper than a model.
Letting him go for his 18th birthday was fine because it's kinda like a right of passage. Most of my friends were talking about going to one when each of us turned 18. Although it shouldn't be a regular thing. Just on occasions like 18th or Bachelor Parties. You can tell him to give his coupons to friends or something, but that might cause some trouble. So you can also let him use his coupons and then stop him after that. Tell him it bothers you and such. Plus sending you pictures was a very messed up move on his part.